The innofficial guide to introverts

Suffice it to say that I am in this case the introvert, and I purely speak from my own experience 🙂

Our world is run by early birds and extroverts, if you do not comply to a certain kind of picture people have in mind of what you should look like or how you should act, you get labelled; he/she is weird, too quiet, has no opinion, pushover etc.

My favourite description of introverts is quirky. It is such a lovely word, in the sound embolding the strange, the different and the uniqueness that makes an introvert.

Amongst introverts you have many different types; from literal hermits to the blended types that function quite well with people in work or social environments. One thing most of us has in common though, we regularly need some alone time.

For myself, for example, I need one day a week where there is no one around. I may go walking or just read… as long as I am alone and am able to recharge my batteries.

A couple of years ago I started to get to know this aspect of myself better, and you know what?, I have come to a point where I am perfectly happy being the introvert I am… how boring the world would be if we were all the same, much less how dangerous it would be as it’s the critical introvert that usually points out the issues or the stumbling blocks.

Just as we need the extroverts to lighten the room and get us out of our shells a bit more. Here is my survival kit for anyone that might suspect they are an introvert and anyone that loves one.

  • We need space and time alone. Don’t take this personally, it really has nothing to do with you. People are exhausting and the best way to fill our tanks are some time alone. Someone who gives us the space will find a very loyal friend and partner.
  • We have rich imaginations, if you bother not to interrupt us with quick assumptions you will discover quite an interesting mind that has a very unique view of the world… but take care not to interrupt us… it sometimes takes time to formulate the picture in our heads into words and being interrupted is probably the best way to get us off balance and to just leave it…
  • We enjoy silence. Sometimes it’s good not to say anything, just to listen to the breeze, the birds or the sound of someone’s footsteps on the ground.
  • We love bookshops or libraries
  • Do not rush us. Period.
  • We can’t do crowds for too long… perhaps like 1 or 2 hours, but if you catch us becoming cranky or start looking at our watches and withdrawing from conversation we have been there too long… it might even start with physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.
  • We would end relationships if we feel too restricted or too smothered, or even when we feel it is going too fast or there are demands too soon on us…
  • There are many layers to our personality, you may think you know us but remember this is often a front that we put up, and there are many layers.
  • We are generally not too keen on public displays of affection or anger… If we allow it please know we are exceptionally comfortable with you.
  • Typically we will count our true friends on one hand, we have lots of aquantances but very little true friends. One thing though, for that friend we will literally be the partner in crime through thick or thin
  • We have learned that not everyone holds themselves to the same value or ethics standards. This is hard for us and yes we will be forgiving but we will find it very sad, and it will take a while for us to trust you again.

Are you also introverted? What is important to you as an introvert / what are your survival techniques?